8 common narcissist lies - see how many apply to SH.
Oct 21, 2018 21:41:19 GMT
Post by graucho on Oct 21, 2018 21:41:19 GMT
According to Psychology today these are the common lies of a narcissist
1. “I’m So Great – Just Ask Me!”
Multiple studies and writings have linked chronic narcissism with the tendency to overinflate one’s own sense of the self.(3)(4)(5)(6)(7) This is frequently accomplished through bragging, showboating, exaggerating, name-dropping, and other forms of self-aggrandizement. On a regular basis, the narcissist will remind you how special, important, powerful, attractive, popular, and/or successful they are. They exhibit a constant need to talk about (display) themselves in flattering and egotistical ways, with frequent reminders of their superior and envy-worthy dispositions.
Deep down, however, the true self-esteem of the narcissist may be a very different reality. They may feel that they are nothing without the aggrandizement, empty without the attention, and unloved without the adulation. The narcissist’s superficial bragging betrays an inability to be simply and genuinely human, with the capacity to engage in equitable and authentic relationships.
That's Hoffman to a T
2. I'm Better than you, I'm better than them
In daily interactions, narcissists take satisfaction in reminding you and others that they’re better in large and small ways. Their barely disguised (or nakedly undisguised) intolerance of “inferiors” is revealed through judgments, criticisms, smugness, sarcasm, marginalization, stereotypes, and overall high condescension. In the mind-set of some narcissists, they are gods and goddesses, and the world revolves around them. From their self-absorbed perspective, they deserve the privilege of being catered to, and other people’s thoughts and feeling are irrelevant.(5)
Again, utterly daddy.
3. “I Promise!”
Another common trait of the chronic narcissist is his or her pattern of not following through on agreements and obligations. This can range from the relatively mild, such as flaking out on appointments and tasks, to the highly serious, such as abandoning major responsibilities and relationships (commitments). Being self-centered and conceited, the narcissist will generally meet his or her obligations only when they suit his self-interest. Chronic narcissists do not relate, they use. They talk a good talk, but often fail to back it up. Research and writings have linked high narcissism with traits such as unreliability, infidelity, manipulativeness, and overall lower levels of trustworthiness.
He was working on that special project that they were gonna love.
4. “Don’t Worry!”
Since many narcissists care little about rules and boundaries, they may engage in activities which lack credibility, ethics, or morality. Examples may include smaller offenses such as breaking traffic rules, cutting in line, borrowing items without returning, or stealing office supplies, to more serious schemes such as financial, legal, or relational abuse. Some narcissists not only engage in, but thrive on rule breaking to get their way, for rule breaking makes them feel exceptional and entitled
LOL
5. “It’s Not My Fault / It’s Your Fault!”
Inevitably, the self-absorbed and manipulative machinations of a chronic narcissist will catch up with her or him, and land the narcissist in hot water. When this occurs, one of the most common responses of the narcissist is to point fingers, and shift responsibility to others. Oftentimes, the narcissist will blame their victims for having caused their own victimization. Another common response is making excuses - there is always some unexpected or unforeseen circumstance which deterred the narcissist from being responsible. Finally, the narcissist may make herself out to be the victim, pointing to any number of difficulties and hard-luck struggles which prevented her from being accountable, and ask for leniency (again being an exception to the rule)
There's always some other person or obstacle that prevents the great Steve from achieving what he sets out to (in his mind)
6. “I’m Here for You / I Care About You / I Love You!”
Narcissists have the ability to be charming and charismatic when they choose.(13) Like a master salesperson, they know how to say the right things to entice your attention, and steer you into believing their sugar-coated persuasions. In interpersonal and/or romantic relationships, narcissists are often quick to profess their admiration of and attraction for you, usually without bothering to really know you as a person. In reality, the narcissist wants you to feel special not because they really care about you, but because they want something from you.
Sweet as pie during a fundraiser
7. “You’re Not Here for Me / You Disappoint Me!”
When someone in the narcissist’s manipulative orbit has the courage to be independent and chooses her or his own priority, the narcissist will often become highly agitated, sometimes fly into a (narcissistic) rage, and accuse the other person of being “selfish”, “disappointing”, or “not here for me”. In reality, the narcissist is simply throwing a child-like tantrum for not getting his or her way. If you find yourself on the receiving end of these accusations, ask yourself the following questions:
Again, this is most likely true of Steve. Didn't one of the ex gorts say as much when they defected to SC?
8. “I’m Sorry / l’ll Change.”
Because narcissists often operate on inauthenticity and falsehoods, the consequences of their actions may eventually catch-up to them, and exact a heavy price. These are the moments of life-crisis for the narcissist, which may include family estrangement, marital separation or divorce, trouble with the law, damaged personal and/or professional reputation, etc.
During these moments, some narcissists will dramatically profess their wrong-doing, promise to change their ways, and ask for forgiveness.
The only people who would experience this, would be his wife and / or his boss. Karla, get over here and spill the beans!
1. “I’m So Great – Just Ask Me!”
Multiple studies and writings have linked chronic narcissism with the tendency to overinflate one’s own sense of the self.(3)(4)(5)(6)(7) This is frequently accomplished through bragging, showboating, exaggerating, name-dropping, and other forms of self-aggrandizement. On a regular basis, the narcissist will remind you how special, important, powerful, attractive, popular, and/or successful they are. They exhibit a constant need to talk about (display) themselves in flattering and egotistical ways, with frequent reminders of their superior and envy-worthy dispositions.
Deep down, however, the true self-esteem of the narcissist may be a very different reality. They may feel that they are nothing without the aggrandizement, empty without the attention, and unloved without the adulation. The narcissist’s superficial bragging betrays an inability to be simply and genuinely human, with the capacity to engage in equitable and authentic relationships.
That's Hoffman to a T
2. I'm Better than you, I'm better than them
In daily interactions, narcissists take satisfaction in reminding you and others that they’re better in large and small ways. Their barely disguised (or nakedly undisguised) intolerance of “inferiors” is revealed through judgments, criticisms, smugness, sarcasm, marginalization, stereotypes, and overall high condescension. In the mind-set of some narcissists, they are gods and goddesses, and the world revolves around them. From their self-absorbed perspective, they deserve the privilege of being catered to, and other people’s thoughts and feeling are irrelevant.(5)
Again, utterly daddy.
3. “I Promise!”
Another common trait of the chronic narcissist is his or her pattern of not following through on agreements and obligations. This can range from the relatively mild, such as flaking out on appointments and tasks, to the highly serious, such as abandoning major responsibilities and relationships (commitments). Being self-centered and conceited, the narcissist will generally meet his or her obligations only when they suit his self-interest. Chronic narcissists do not relate, they use. They talk a good talk, but often fail to back it up. Research and writings have linked high narcissism with traits such as unreliability, infidelity, manipulativeness, and overall lower levels of trustworthiness.
He was working on that special project that they were gonna love.
4. “Don’t Worry!”
Since many narcissists care little about rules and boundaries, they may engage in activities which lack credibility, ethics, or morality. Examples may include smaller offenses such as breaking traffic rules, cutting in line, borrowing items without returning, or stealing office supplies, to more serious schemes such as financial, legal, or relational abuse. Some narcissists not only engage in, but thrive on rule breaking to get their way, for rule breaking makes them feel exceptional and entitled
LOL
5. “It’s Not My Fault / It’s Your Fault!”
Inevitably, the self-absorbed and manipulative machinations of a chronic narcissist will catch up with her or him, and land the narcissist in hot water. When this occurs, one of the most common responses of the narcissist is to point fingers, and shift responsibility to others. Oftentimes, the narcissist will blame their victims for having caused their own victimization. Another common response is making excuses - there is always some unexpected or unforeseen circumstance which deterred the narcissist from being responsible. Finally, the narcissist may make herself out to be the victim, pointing to any number of difficulties and hard-luck struggles which prevented her from being accountable, and ask for leniency (again being an exception to the rule)
There's always some other person or obstacle that prevents the great Steve from achieving what he sets out to (in his mind)
6. “I’m Here for You / I Care About You / I Love You!”
Narcissists have the ability to be charming and charismatic when they choose.(13) Like a master salesperson, they know how to say the right things to entice your attention, and steer you into believing their sugar-coated persuasions. In interpersonal and/or romantic relationships, narcissists are often quick to profess their admiration of and attraction for you, usually without bothering to really know you as a person. In reality, the narcissist wants you to feel special not because they really care about you, but because they want something from you.
Sweet as pie during a fundraiser
7. “You’re Not Here for Me / You Disappoint Me!”
When someone in the narcissist’s manipulative orbit has the courage to be independent and chooses her or his own priority, the narcissist will often become highly agitated, sometimes fly into a (narcissistic) rage, and accuse the other person of being “selfish”, “disappointing”, or “not here for me”. In reality, the narcissist is simply throwing a child-like tantrum for not getting his or her way. If you find yourself on the receiving end of these accusations, ask yourself the following questions:
Again, this is most likely true of Steve. Didn't one of the ex gorts say as much when they defected to SC?
8. “I’m Sorry / l’ll Change.”
Because narcissists often operate on inauthenticity and falsehoods, the consequences of their actions may eventually catch-up to them, and exact a heavy price. These are the moments of life-crisis for the narcissist, which may include family estrangement, marital separation or divorce, trouble with the law, damaged personal and/or professional reputation, etc.
During these moments, some narcissists will dramatically profess their wrong-doing, promise to change their ways, and ask for forgiveness.
The only people who would experience this, would be his wife and / or his boss. Karla, get over here and spill the beans!
